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What is the one thing that all self-made millionaires have in common?  They all believe in themselves and stick to their ideas even if other people don’t support them.  You must emulate this behavior if you want to achieve success for yourself.  But don’t think that this is easy.  Western society conditions us not to believe in ourselves.  Not only do you have to fight against that but you must also battle your own subconscious mind. 

Yet, hope is not lost.  By following three simple steps, you can learn how to believe in yourself even if your dreams don’t seem plausible at first.  These steps include: visualizing, using affirmations and communicating with others who share similar goals.

1. Visualizing

Visualizing is a very prominent step for believing in yourself.  Why?  It’s because through visualization you get an opportunity to see your dreams come true even if they have not actually happened yet.  This gives you quite a bit of motivation.

If you need ‘help’ determining what you need to visualize, you can use a physical object to help you.  For example, say you want to visualize earning a million dollars doing whatever you love.  Start your visualization process by getting one of your bank account statements, and modifying them to your desire:  cross out your current bank balance and enter $1,000,000 instead! Meditate on what this feels like.  With time, you will be able to see these results for real!

2. Affirmations

Affirmations work by using positive words to stimulate your subconscious mind, such as “I am strong, I am powerful, I am successful, etc.”  These words can be spoken by you or by someone else, whether they are in person or from a recording.  Some recordings will have affirmations spoken so softly that you cannot hear them.  Instead, you will hear the sounds of instrumental music. 

Other recordings will sound out the affirmations.  Some may require that you speak them out aloud too.  Just remember that no matter which route you prefer, all affirmations are communicated to your subconscious, where they take hold and slowly change your beliefs about who you are and what your capabilities are.

3. Communicating with Others Who Have Similar Goals
 
The final step involved in believing in yourself requires finding other people who share similar goals.  This is important because it gives you an opportunity to network with others who are going through the same issues as you.  If you can’t find someone in person to network with, consider going online.  There are many message boards available on the Internet that are dedicated to virtually any niche imaginable.  Find one that best relates to what you’re trying to accomplish and begin forming friendships with the members there.

Believing in yourself is not something that will happen overnight.  In fact, you may have to follow the above-mentioned tips for several months before you begin feeling more confident.  But if you stick with them, you will begin to see results.  And one day you will find that your dreams are fulfilled… even if they originally seemed unattainable.

You tend to get more of what you give

If you have heard of “The Secret”, you have most certainly learned that one of the most powerful ways to find personal satisfaction and fulfillment is through developing a spirit of gratitude.  Learning to be truly grateful for all of the wonderful blessings in your life opens the floodgates of heaven to allow even more blessings to come your way.  The Law of Attraction tells us that we will tend to attract more of what we are putting out, so by being grateful for what you have, you attract more things to be grateful for.  This wonderful principle works equally well for achieving success in your relationships, your finances, your education or your health related goals.

Start with being grateful just to be alive

Sometimes a person has been living in the mode of just “getting by” for so long and complaining has become such a habit that they don’t even see what they have to be grateful for.  If this is where you are right now, it is absolutely vital to begin learning to develop a spirit of gratitude right away.  First of all, remember that every day you are alive is a gift.  If you can think of nothing else to begin with you can start with that.  Focus your energies on the thought, “I am grateful to be alive today.”  You must be absolutely sincere about being thankful for today.  Next, you can try being grateful for the potential of tomorrow.  No matter what the past has been for you, the reality exists that you can make tomorrow anything you choose it to be.  Other things to be grateful for include the air that you are breathing, having a place to live (if all you had was a cardboard box then be grateful for that box to shelter you from the wind), having food to eat, having friendships and other family relationships, etc. 

Expressing your gratitude and goals on paper makes these thoughts more powerful

Once you get started you will continue find more and more things to be grateful for.  Take the time to write them down and meditate over the things you are grateful for.  The next step is to set some goals and write them down as well.  After that you should begin to imagine yourself achieving these goals and practice being thankful for achieving those goals.  As you do these exercises you will be making the things in your goals more and more real.  Your spirit of gratitude can’t help but to attract everything you are being grateful for to you.

Summary

Developing a spirit of gratitude is one of the most important aspects of The Secret to finding success in your financial, emotional, spiritual and physical health.  Being grateful will help you overcome negative thoughts and behaviors with positive thoughts and actions.  Find ways to be grateful for everything around you.  No matter how bad things have been in the past you can be grateful to be alive today and for the potential of a more fulfilling and happy future that exists for everyone who will seek for it.

You probably know someone who has a negative attitude and often displays it.  If so, you are already familiar with the complications which usually result from this – people do not like to be around him, and it can even interfere with his job.  It can affect one’s work obligations, social life, and basic interpersonal relating. 

What if you are a person like this?  What if you have a negative outlook, and it is spilling over into various aspects of your life?  Even if your job performance has been suffering, or if people are no longer welcoming your company, you do not need to live with these consequences - because you do not need to hold onto the attitude which has caused them!

A positive attitude can make a world of difference!  Soon after you have begun to apply this principle, you will see this for yourself! 

Negativity will only hold you down; a positive attitude will help bring you back up.  Negativity will keep you focused on everything that is wrong, everything that has ever been wrong; but a positive attitude will bring your focus to everything that is right and better.  The very best way to look at the subject, though, is to remind yourself that while a negative attitude will limit you, a positive attitude will go a long way in getting rid of those limits.  If you think about how much a negative attitude has limited you, this in itself should be a great motivating factor!

Most people do not like to acknowledge that they are limiting themselves and their prospects with their own attitudes and behavior.  When you start to replace the “cannot” with “can,” you will see how much power there is in your own attitude!  You will feel that you have more potential, as well as the ability to reach your potential – while the only thing that has actually changed is your own attitude!  Goal-setting and making plans will become much easier, and you will find that you can accomplish much more than you had previously thought you could!

When you take on a new, positive attitude, you will experience wonderful results with other people.  Instead of shying away from a chronic complainer who rarely had anything uplifting to say, people will appreciate your company when your positive attitude makes itself apparent in your personal interactions. 

A positive attitude will work wonders in how you feel about yourself, also.  Instead of always looking for what’s wrong in yourself and in your life, you will gain a newfound appreciation for everything that is good in both.  You will find that you like your life more than you did before – and that you like yourself better, too! 

If you are not yet convinced, perhaps you would like to give it a try!  Whenever you sense one of those old negative thoughts, feelings, or ideas preparing to creep in, let them go and replace them with something good, upbeat, and positive.  It will not be long before you experience results! 

The power of positive words will change your destiny from a negative outlook to a positive one. You must believe in your positive words in order to achieve positive thinking. The best thing is how your world will change for the better. You are what you say! Build your self-esteem, hold on to your goals and then change your attitude to a positive outgoing look at your life.

Your personal transformation begins when you can identify and deal with your shortcomings. Even though you are changing your outlook on life to a more positive view, remember that no one is perfect.  Perfection is a state of mind or a goal that everyone strives for but you should always learn to be happy with what you can do.  It is not healthy to become distraught over what you cannot do. Make your goals reachable in order to be successful. Use the power of positive thinking and the ability of positive words to change your destiny.

Your plan for success needs some important inclusions, which are to as the three “C’s”.  The three “C’s” can make or break your development, and that is why you should be careful in the manner in which you execute each in order to for them to work together as a whole.  You are required to seriously work with your Commitment, Consistency, and Consolidation in order to achieve a positive outcome.

When the word is positive that is what changes your destiny. The attitude becomes positive with the word. The success rate becomes positive with the word. The spoken positive word is the key to a person’s transformation. We all need to be able to succeed in life no matter how large or small our goals. The feeling of high self-esteem is important in order for you to maintain your goals. The word will change your destiny – but be aware that the word can also destroy your future ambitions. The negative word or thought is like a heavy cloud waiting to storm and destroy all that is in sight.

Your desire to succeed and become a better person is brought forth by planting good seeds in your mind. The seeds are planted every day by each act or thought.  Outside influences affect the way you think but not the way you conduct yourself. Think positive, speak positive and show others that you are strong in character and that you have control of your life.  Then you will find that many people respect and admire you and your strong character.

Many times a childhood event that traumatizes is forgotten or buried deep within one’s subconscious.  The life experiences often bring it forward causing a relapse that can be devastating, causing psychological damage. The average person finds that the trauma encountered during those early childhood years involves an adult who is a family member. The trauma usually stems from the loss of someone loved, sexual abuse, or childhood disease that was painful. The adult might be suffering a phobia related to the trauma without realizing it.One example would be a small child stuck in an elevator for more than an hour or placed in a closet for punishment, which later in life causes the person to have a phobia over small dark rooms.  The person does not realize why this is so, because they had put the incident in the back of their mind.  The memory bank is now closed to the main incident but open to the fear of small dark rooms.

Since most traumas occur around other family members, then it stands to reason that the support of your family now when you realize what happened is very important.  A lack of self-esteem and many anxieties are aroused when the trauma is part of a sexual encounter that happened at a very young age.

The quest in your life is not to despair but learn how to cope and live a fulfilled life. The system that will help you achieve this is called the DYSALA  or Discover Your Script And Live Again! The DYSALA Method helps you to lead a happy fulfilled life!

When should you take any action? The best time is right now!  Your Life-Script formed from early on in your life and it is up to you now to rewrite a negative script into a positive one. The fact is that everyone lives by a Life Script - the map that guides you through life.

Everything that happens to us happens on purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.

I remember watching the movie Patch Adams. It’s a great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decides to seek medical attention and voluntarily admits himself to a psychiatric ward. His months of staying in the hospital lead him to meeting different people. Sick people in fact. He meets a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch finds ways of treating his own ailment and finally realizes that he has to get back on track. He wakes up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still wants to become a doctor. He carries a positive attitude with himself that brings him self improvement and success. He doesn’t only improve himself, but also the lives of the people around him and their quality of life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best darn doctor his country has ever known.

So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take a look at these tips:

1. Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOURSELF?

2. When you see gorgeous models on TV, think more of self improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice, slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty.

3. When people feel down about themselves, help them to lift themselves up. Don’t go down with them. They could pull you down further and then both of you could end up feeling bad.

4. The world is a large place for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you’ve failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make room for self improvement.

5. Take things one at a time. You don’t expect black sheep to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.

6. Self improvement results in inner stability, personality development and yes, SUCCESS.

7. Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement doesn’t turn you into an exact replica of Cameron Diaz or Ralph Fiennes. It just aims to result in an improved and better YOU.

8. Little things mean A LOT to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do, like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith “hey, I love your tie!”, are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things and other people around us, we also become beautiful to them.

9. When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude live. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend like to do the same thing together at the same time, she could easily decline your invitation for self improvement.

We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘overnight success’. It’s always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for. A very nice quote says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for self improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of success.

The DYSALA Method

I am often asked about the DYSALA Method – “Andrea, what does DYSALA mean? What does it have to do with happiness and living a life of abundance? Can I learn about the Seven Secret Steps and make a difference in my life?” Yes, you can! Everyone can apply the DYSALA method and become the master of his or her life!

While DYSALA is just an acronym for Discover Your Script And Live Again, the DYSALA method is a most powerful means of ridding yourself of the demons that have ruled your life. The DYSALA method is a proven, systematic way to help you sift through your emotions and the memories of a lifetime to identify the single, most significant event of your childhood that triggered your Script.

A Life-Script is the blueprint by which we live our lives. Everyone lives by a Script. A child is most susceptible between the ages of 4-7; these are the “growth” years during which a child is most impressionable. Whatever happens during these years, whether good or bad, forms a lasting impression in the child’s mind and soul. A spider bite can turn into a lifelong phobia; a bullied child becomes a bully himself as a defense mechanism; a ridiculed fat child has no self esteem as an adult; and an abused child never trusts anyone.

And even if nothing out of the ordinary happens during those years, children learn by imitating the adults around them and thus habits are formed that have their roots in the words and actions of their parents, teachers and other adult role models.

Unfortunately, 95% or more of all Scripts are negative. The 7 Secret Steps of the DYSALA method show you how to conquer your negative Script and how to write yourself a New Script – a new blueprint for the life you want to live!

1. First, you have to understand how Life-Scripts are formed. The first Secret Step gives you a series of examples of negative Life-Scripts and how they were formed, so that you learn to appreciate the significant power they can hold over you. Once you are aware of this power, it is no longer invisible and you can start to fight it.

2. Second, you have to recognize how Life-Scripts can influence you in your life and how you in turn can influence others as a result of your Script. This is an important step in the DYSALA Method – see the pitfalls of a negative Life-Script and embrace the potential benefits of a positive one. This will give you the courage to proceed to the third Secret Step.

3. The third Secret Step is the discovery of your own Life-Script, which could be a very emotional and disturbing process. It is one thing to talk in abstracts and general terms involving Scripts of other people, but it is quite something else when you go through the discovery process yourself and zero in on happenings in your long lost past, which, unbeknownst to you, have lodged themselves in the deepest recesses of your subconscious. If they were painful events, you probably blocked them out completely from your conscious mind, never suspecting that they would grow to powerful Life-Scripts that ruled your life.

4. Naturally, the emotional stress of the discovery of your own Life-Script could be upsetting. A variety of methods are presented in the fourth Secret Step on how you could cope with this stress and build a solid foundation for the new life that lies ahead of you, one that is full of happiness and abundance!

5. This is where the fun begins. In the fifth Secret Step you get to write your New Life-Script. Dream big, paint your new life on a blank canvas with all the colors of the rainbow! Put everything on it, new material things if you like – a new car, a new house, a vacation place, a boat, travel, etc. Or paint new relationships, a new job, new ideas – fame and fortune, whatever you like. And when you see yourself living the life you painted on this canvas, you will know how to write your New Life-Script that will make your dreams come true.

6. In the sixth Secret Step you learn how to bring it all together. You discovered your old Life-Script, you wrote your New Life-Script and you painted the life you want. Now you get to put the structures in place that will anchor and secure you in your new life’s path: your belief system about love and relationships, sex, religion, money and finances, material wealth and spiritual wealth, etc.

7. And in the seventh and final Secret Step you will find a series of exercises that you should do daily to permanently imprint your New Script in you subconscious and secure your path to newfound happiness.

Follow my DYSALA Method of the Seven Secret Steps and live the life you have always wanted – a life full of happiness, personal fulfillment and abundance!

Enjoy your journey!
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Almost everyone has heard the hit single ‘Don’t Worry, Be Happy’ by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message to everyone. Bobby McFerrin’s simple message surely made a lot of people happy by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. As you surely already know, stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

There is an apt saying - ‘The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change’; we are lucky that we have the power to make the necessary changes in our life if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that that too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, so accept them for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all resentment. If arguments seem unavoidable, try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along very well with the other person.

To be happy is relatively easy – just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook would be. The choice is really simple, just choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this.

- Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

- News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can’t start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

- Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

- Laugh and laugh heartily every day. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. Laughter is the best medicine’.

- Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger or frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.

- Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

- Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons.

- Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive, and

- Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.

And always remember another quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

I am going to ask you to something very weird right now. First of all, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Now let’s say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?

The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer number two can be pretty generic. Although people will not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling.

Here’s another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen?

You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind.

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – unless, of course, you are a great actor.
And it doesn’t end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you.
The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative.

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.

Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake.

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude.

We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely carry a positive attitude.

You have much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. Projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.

If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.

And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.

If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn.

As always, if you are beset by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome.

You do not have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day. So, what’s not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one today.

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1: Negative Work Environment

Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time, you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior

Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment

You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience

It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Dart Pin #5: Negative World View

Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory

The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent.

In life, it’s hard to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within – voluntary, armor or self change – changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It’s like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.